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Wanting My First Time

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Learn the honest, non-sleazy way to attract high quality partners. You and a girl are back at your place after a date. You sit close together. But sometimes, things are a bit more complicated. Many women are not nearly as aggressive or prepared. This happens especially with younger or inexperienced women.

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Want to make your first-time sex unforgettable? follow these 6 simple rules!

But if you do touch each other, you will get Chlamydia … and die. When thinking about sex, experiencing pain is a perfectly normal concern to have!

Many women assume that losing their virginity will be painful because of what they learn about the hymen, a tissue that lines the opening of the vagina. Reena Liberman, MS. Also, before you even have intercourse, you could have broken your hymen when using tampons, during masturbation, or even with strenuous exercise.

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Yes, sex might feel uncomfortable at first, but the idea that penetration is supposed to hurt is a myth! Much of the pain that we associate with intercourse happens if the person's body is overly tense from nerves.

To help ease the pain, Susan Ernst, a physician at the University Health Service Women's Health Clinic at the University of Michigansays that young people should look into using water-based lubricants. Be sure to stay away from oil-based lubricants because these degrade latex condoms faster, making it easier for them to break during intercourse.

If intercourse is painful or uncomfortable, Taylor, a senior at the University of Michigan, says that you should speak up. Photo by Becca Tapert on Unsplash.

Many college students go through the same thing! Who knows, maybe they're a virgin as well! And if a person has a problem with you being a virgin, then they're not worth sharing this experience with. Foreplay is anything that le up to intercourse. However, Liberman says that thinking about the experience of foreplay as inferior to the act of intercourse is misleading. You can use this intimate time as you please; there are no set rules to follow!

Sarah, a junior at the University of Michigan, also says that foreplay is important. After living vicariously through The Notebook and just about every other Nicholas Sparks inspired-film, you can only dream that your first time will be as romantic and satisfying as the passionate love scenes those couples had.

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This is why foreplay is important! Amy, a recent graduate of the University of Michigan, says that over time you will learn what feels good for your body. Feel comfortable enough to do whatever feels good.

Whether you decide to use female or male condoms, they are a must-have for your first time and any time after that. And what if your worst nightmare comes true? The condom broke.


You forgot to take your birth control pill that day. Plan B emergency contraception is now offered over-the-counter and is a viable option for college women. To make the experience less intimidating, Liberman says that people should become comfortable with their own bodies before having sex. Liberman recommends that women take the time to read about the female body; there are an infinite of online resources to look at if you have any sex-related questions, including Scarleteen.

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Once you begin to explore your own body, you will know what to expect from yourself with a partner when that time comes. You may have certain expectations for your first time, but keep in mind that having sex for the first time is different for every person!

She is obsessed with feeding the squirrels on campus Michigan squirrels are one of a kind and taking pictures of herself feeding said squirrels. She loves cheering on the Wolverines at the Big House, anything and everything social media related, and reading HC of course. Will it hurt? Coping with any pain Yes, sex might feel uncomfortable at first, but the idea that penetration is supposed to hurt is a myth!

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